I was so over waiting.

I spent nearly half the day making sure that everything was done to perfection.

There was no way I was going let my time and effort go to waste.

I poked the golden cake with my fork for the 3rd time in the last 15 minutes.


It’s still not ready.

Ladies. This one is for you.

If I just stick it out, maybe he’ll change…

Ugh. There are way too many memories to just leave…

He’ll never come back. He’s way too prideful for that..

Or the worst one of all…

What if he moves on?

No one ever wants to let go. Ever.

There’s just so much at stake. Too much time and effort was put in to just…walk away.

Plus, he keeps hitting you up. You can’t just block him, right?

You’ve wrestled with getting this much attention and there’s no way we’re going all the way back to square one.

He’s not ready.

I hate to break it to you. But just like the cake, he’s still needs time transform into the potential you see in him. And to be honest, it looks like you’re getting in the way of what God is trying to complete in him. Get out the way, go love yourself, and trust God during the process, no matter how difficult it is.

Sometimes things need to die in order to live again.

I know this sounds completely insane. But trust me on this one. Accepting his minor efforts to keep you is only enabling him to do the bare minimum. And, I’m sorry girlfriend – but that’s the most that you’ll get out of him if you don’t walk away.

If you want any chance of this working in the future, let him go.

Letting him go doesn’t mean it’s over.

It doesn’t mean it isn’t either. Letting go means you trust God enough to teach your man what you can’t. There are only two things that could happen as a result – and you must come to closure both.

He will either:

  1. Walk away and never look back. He’ll continue his search for whatever he’s looking for and maybe coexisting and wishing him the best is what you have to do.


2. Maybe he’ll come back.  You gave him enough time to grow. You gave him enough time to think. You gave him enough time to be human. And most of all, you gave God enough time with him.

And the cherry on top? He’ll be back and better than ever.

The more you micromanage and interrupt the cake’s process to bake, the more you’re going to have to wait. Don’t be afraid to walk away. Sometimes the best thing you can do for a man is let him go and let him see what life is without you.

♥ ♥ ♥ ♥ ♥ ♥ ♥ ♥ ♥

98%  of you reading currently feel inspired and agree that you probably should leave what’s his face alone for a while.

But the truth is –  you know you’re not.

He’ll probably text you and you’ll go back. And I understand.

He’s keeps giving you hope and dragging you into his cycle of uncertainty.

But one day you will become completely powerless. You’ll be over it.

Here is where the other 2% live.

You’ll finally realize you deserve more than the bare minimum and the games he plays.

You’ll realize that good girls are on high demand.

When this day comes, my dear, the game changes forever.


  1. Thanks so much for adding the ending part with 98% and 2%. That’s the truth, and nothing but.
    I’m a guy but this is a power post for everybody. Thanks.

  2. Graceeeee you KNOW my situation and this was everything for me to re validate, I probably just made that word up, lol but that I’m doing the right thing. Regardless of the time I’ve put in. I love you!!!

    1. Chy-town! 🙂 I’m so glad you enjoyed this post and that it encouraged you girlie! You know I’m here for you whenever you need me!

    1. I can relate! We live and we learn girl! Now, it’s our turn to teach others! Be encouraged! xo

  3. Wow!! Thank you for this post. You don’t know me but its like you know me like the back of your hand. God talks/works through people (even virtually) and this spoke to me at the precise time I needed it. I really appreciate it. I cannot express in words the amazingness of this post.

    1. This is so encouraging! If I went through all that I went through – just to touch one life, it was worth it 🙂 I would love it if you subscribed to the blog Johanna! That would mean so much!

      1. I subscribed right after I read this post. I had to! and then I read your other blog!! Thank you again! I was meant to find your blog and look forward to reading more. I truly believe (even just after reading 2 blogs) that God works through people and your blog was Godsend to me. Can’t wait to read more! xoxoxo

  4. It took me 8 years to realize this but I am glad I finally did. It is a big hurt to let go but as I read the part about interfering with God’s work to let him go it really made me realize that I was hurting instead of helping. I try to tell myself so many excuses on why to stay but reading this really touch me and allow me to accept the fact he never going to change unless I change. Your words are truly powerful and has greatly encouraged and enlighten me. Thanks so much Graciela for your word God has spoken to me through you and now I will allow God to finish the work on both of us.

    1. Courntee! You have actually encouraged me. I think as women we all go through this cycle. But just like split ends and just like weeds in grass – somethings need to be cut in order to grow lively again. Blessings xx

  5. I can definitely relate to this. It was so hard for me to let go because I had too much invested… but I did… I had had enough so I packed up and moved one night… many months later he came begging and was showing the changes that I wanted to see long ago.

    1. This was literally my same story. Sometimes we’re afraid they’ll move on or find someone else. But in order for them to figure out what they want – sometimes we have to eliminate ourselves from the equation.

      Blessings xx

  6. This is nothing but the brutal yet beautiful truth! Supportive yet honest delivery, which is what women need. I loved this read!

  7. Made this decision and didn’t look back. Currently with someone who makes me so happy, and who is interested in growing and building together. Great advice.

  8. Yes! Sometime we need to hear it from someone else for it to click! I hope everyone who reads this listen to what you are saying! 👏🏾👏🏾

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