Let’s Talk: Ode to The Homies

Ode to my road dogs.

It’s August 2017 and Despacito is still catchy. What is life guys.

I decided to take a break from the devotionals and update you guys on a couple things currently going on in my life.

So, I’m going through a break up. There I said it.

Wedding planning, ring shopping, trips to Disney, and shopping sprees – 4 years later, we said our final goodbyes.

4 freaking years later.

4 years of ignoring the red flags. 4 years of car rides filled with tears. 4 years of forgiving. And here I am.  Finally having closure that the only man I have ever dreamed about marrying, isn’t the man for me.

As you can imagine, this past month has been filled with ups and downs. But thankfully, my girls have been some major riders.

When things don’t go as planned, it’s so easy to focus on the restrictions. I,e what you don’t have, what went wrong, what would’ve happened that didn’t…

But if there’s something I learned this past month, it’s that life is all about perspective.

There are way too many beautiful things in this world to be worked up over a silly boy. And if you only focus on the negatives – you’ll never see the positives.

So I decided to share with you my bucket list of things I’m doing to help gain my perspective back. Hopefully this will  help you too.

Go dancing Am I good at it? Who cares! If David danced, so can I! So here’s to turning up the music and dancing the tears away.

Travel Step away from the dark clouds. There’s no reason to lock yourself in your room and drive yourself crazy. God hooked us up with the bluest skies and orange-y sunsets to remind us of His love for Him. Even in the midst of our pain.

Get a massage Shoutout to my friends at House of Yen who are hooking us up when we go to Atlanta next month!

Write it out When E initially told me to write about my break up, I refused. There was no way. But between the blog and my diary (yes I still have a diary) – it’s relieving. And who knows. Maybe a couple of months down the line, I’ll reread this and thank God for the pain that gave me understanding.

If God says no, trust it This is probably something I would tell myself if I could rewind time. But of course, like a child who continues asking God for things she thinks she wants – I refused to take no for an answer.

Give yourself time It might sound really good to get whats-his-face out the friend zone. After all, you really can’t go wrong with free food and companionship, right? But I think it’s a good idea to have me time. Time to heal. Time to love. Time to prepare myself for what’s ahead. There’s no need to rush. And if God is truly enough for me, He’ll be enough for me when I’m single too.

Surround beautiful people who do beautiful things and bring out the beauty in you.

Life is all about balance and too much of a good thing can be bad. Always remember where you came from and who helped carry you there.

Ode to my homies. This one is for you.

RJ, BB, LM, NF

9 thoughts on “Let’s Talk: Ode to The Homies

  1. Thanks for sharing such a personal and vulnerable story and experience. Its hard when you think you’ve found “the one”, when God has other plans. I like that you said to be patient with yourself. Sometimes we wanna rush the healing process when really we need to allow ourselves to go through it. Great post!

  2. Thank you for sharing this with us. I’m sending you love and light because breakups are no fun, ever. I went through a bad one years ago, I’m talking about my boyfriend was out of town for the weekend and then in the same breath told me had signed for a house while he was up there…miles and miles away. I wasn’t included in these plans. Needless to say, I cried in my best friend’s bed that night and packed all his stuff up the next day. My friends were essential in getting me through these times but also my faith that God had been showing me all along he wasn’t the one. Needless to say, it may sound cliche but I’m glad you got your girls and also I’m super into this bucket list.

    1. Thanks for this Kay! This encouraged me! Sometimes I wonder what goes through their brains when things like this happen, but I feel like sometimes we ignore the red flags. At least I know I did. God is sovereign and that’s what’s keeping my head about water! Much love xx

  3. Thank you for sharing this! This really touched base with me. I have had the same thoughts and all. Even down to being engaged for years. You have opened my eyes to somethings that I need to shine more light on. I am going to be making me a bucketlist too. Thanks for sharing this!

  4. I love that you have a plan set up. The road ahead is going to be rough. Even when sometimes you might feel like you’re over him, next minute you might find yourself curled up in bed crying. Just be strong and make sure you don’t jump into another relationship too quick. I’m sure with your plan, you’ll be good in no time. Be strong girl! We’ve all been there at some point in our lives.

  5. Sometimes one of the best ways to move forward is to let it out. Kudos on being bold enough to share what you’re going through. Breakups are tough and certainly be a time when all you want to do is hole up and wallow. I agree with you tips to get up and get out. Like you said it’s all about perspective and now you can see what life looks like when you get to pick all the movies and restaurants! Haha. Keep your head up girl, it definitely gets better. =)

    xo,
    Leslie / @hautemommie / http://www.thehautemommie.com

    1. Thanks Leslie! This is definitely encouraging! I would love it if you subscribed to follow me on my journey!

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