I think I’ve heard it all by now.

Maybe you’re doing something wrong…

I had a dream you were my wife…

and the worst one of all

God told me we you were The One…

Hello, single twentys.

For the past 365 days, I’ve decided on being single. Like deliberately single. And it was weird how I came to the decision.

No. There was no Bible verse that told me to do it.

And no. There was no Kumbaya-moment with God.

Social media made me do it.

This time last year, I remember scrolling through Facebook and seeing my feed filled with drool-infested babies, fat diamond rings, and exotic honeymoons while I was in Tampa, Florida working on my second Krispy Kreme donut wondering why my future husband was taking so long.

I hated being alone. Especially at this age.

I never felt so behind. While everyone was out doing cool things like celebrating Valentine’s Day and receiving bouquets of flowers- the most excitement happening in my life was me trying to figure out who killed Wes on How To Get Away With Murder.

Isn’t it weird how we settle? Like seriously.

We become so pressed for the love that we see highlighted on social media that we settle for anyone or anything that uses the hashtag #Godisgood and calls us pretty. We settle for people who kinda sorta meet  our standards and hope that no one else notices the red flags we pretend aren’t there.

Thus begun my 365 day fast from relationships.

After going on countless movie dates solo and taking time to relearn myself- 1 year later I realized this was the best decision of my life.

I learned how to build a bookshelf and that primer always goes before paint.

I have learned that saying no isn’t always selfish and the milly rock literally goes with everything.

I learned that I love the book of Proverbs and my alone time with Jesus is everything.

I learned that I love traveling and the adventures that come with it.

But most of all,

I have learned how to love myself.

Being single isn’t a curse and you’ll be surprised how much you’ll learn about yourself if you could just embrace this season. Everything will happen when it’s supposed to and sometimes disconnecting from the dating scene will bring the best results in the long run.

I’m not entirely sure what’s next, but here’s to embracing life and every beautiful thing that is to come.


  1. Love this! beautifully written. I am single and in my late 40’s and agree with everything you said:)

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