So you didn’t pass along that chain letter back in the 8th grade, huh?
The Holidays are among us and your grandma is bound to ask about your wish washy love life for the 3rd year in a row.
While singlehood has it’s perks- there can rise a certain covetousness when you see your family and friends paired off. I mean, let’s be real. Overthinking will get the best of you and 3 hours later you’re wondering why it never worked out with whats-his-face.
Trust me you’re not alone on this.
Studies show that the greatest worry for people around the holiday season is being alone or single.
Now I’m not knocking it. It’s great to have that special someone in your life! But it’s just as great to embrace your singlehood. Here are some great ways to redirect your energy to the plethora of trees in the garden that are available to you.
Christmas Cookies and Chill Want to know one of the best parts about being single during the holidays? You can do whatever you want! Crank up Mariah Carey’s Christmas album! Bake dozens of cookies! Eat dozens of cookies! Have an epic dance party in the comfort of your own home!
It can be so easy to forget the beautiful freedom you have because you’re still bound to mentalities of the past. But I’m here to remind you of three truths :
YOU ARE FREE
YOU ARE FREE
YOU ARE FREE
Feel free to eat all the cookie batter and not worry about getting weird looks for double dipping. Feel free to wear your onesie with a side of messy bun! Feel free to embrace exactly where God has you right now.
Perfect the art of saying ‘No’ While somethings are non-negotiable, I want to remind you that it’s okay to say no to the things that discourage you or drain you of your energy. Company Christmas party? Judgmental friends? Negative roomies? Set your boundaries, boo. You’re not obligated to anyone that leaves you stressed or exhausted especially during this beautiful season.
Because people can suck – some leave us with less energy than when we started. And even though this season is about being selfless, you also have permission to tweak up traditions if it helps you embrace the beauty of the season.
Create new memories Who says your bound to your 4 walls this Christmas? Gather your close girlfriends and go on a ski trip. Or plan a mini-getaway to the mountains with some family. Splurge on a tropical cruise to the islands or explore the Grand Canyon in the winter. God hooked you up with so many beautiful resources to remind you of His love for you but sometimes we’re the ones who prohibit ourselves from experiencing the dimensions of his love. It’s time to change that. Pack your bags and let’s go!
Recognize that Christ is enough In the words of my friend J – “you’re focusing on the wrong thing.” Hollywood does a great job making you feel obligated to go to 1st base under the mistletoe during this season. But whether you’re alone, separated or married- it’s important to recognize that Christ is enough for you even in your singleness. And let’s face it. This season isn’t about you wallowing in self-pity- but rather a celebrating of the birth of the only one who could fulfill you in ways unimaginable.
As Christmas approaches, I pray for all my single/separated friends who are overwhelmed with the feeling of loneliness and frustration. We’ve all been there and we know it’s no fun. But let me encourage you to choose your perspective this season. Embrace the process and trust that God has you future under control – even when He seems silent.
Sending love and virtual cookie dough your way,