Here at LBC, we’re excited to introduce the newest section of this platform called Consejos from Abuela.
If you’ve met Abuela, you already know she has no problem keeping it real. So Consejos From Abuela will be perfect for those who can handle the truth about any situation.
A Message from Abuela:
For the women blowing up his phone – It’s always wise to wait. You can never really go wrong. When you wait until he has an urgent desire/interest to be with you/call you – it works out better in the long run. As women we can obsess with not giving a man time to compartmentalize his thoughts or…wait for it… allow him to be human!
In reality, you don’t know all the thoughts going on inside of his brain and just because a man doesn’t call doesn’t mean he’s not interested. Sometimes men just need time.
For the women dealing with on and off relationships – Here’s something I learned throughout the years – when you change, they change. Change always starts with self. We see a lot of couples going through exhausting cycles because in reality – no one is really allowing God to change them at the core. Yea… you might be change for a little while….but you’ll quickly find yourself falling back into old habits.
I pray that if you take anything from this interview, it’s the following: your looks only go so far. I find way too many women relying on their beauty and their booty to change a man. No matter how seductive- you cannot seduce a man to change. This is manipulation and from the words of my granddaughter “Blessings obtained by manipulation only last so long.”
For the married women that are waiting for their husbands to change Your primary focus in your marriage has always been to be a reflection of Christ to your husband. (I hope you didn’t go into the marriage because he gave you butterflies and wore cool sneakers.) So for the times your husband is just not behaving – you show him Christ’s love every single day. This isn’t the time to lecture him or spank him like you’re his mother. Because 9 times out of 10 – he will just become more aggressive after your nagging.
I know how much millennials hate the word submission. But pick your battles and understand when to let him win. This will ultimately work out better for you in the long run. Like I said before – change in your marriage/relationship begins with you. And you’d be crazy to want things to change but continue doing the same things (that obviously aren’t working for you)
For the single women that are waiting for their boyfriends to change
The first thing that I’m just going to get out the way is that you are not in covenant with your boyfriend. So if you’ve decided to treat him as such (i,e having sex before marriage etc) – you’ve promoted him to a higher position with benefits. Give yourself a little value, mija. Know your worth and act accordingly.
After we reach a certain age, we run into men who continue promising us change, but see no fruits of this change. Mija, don’t be afraid to let that man go. I’ve seen way too many women waste years of their lives waiting for a man to change- that won’t – unless she exits out of his life. So many times God wants to do a work in a man but we’re the one prohibiting the growth.
Because we’re creature of habit- we can become comfortable with someone and mistaken it for love. And after years of emotions and work invested- who really wants to start from square 1 with someone else? Or even worst – be alone! Dun dun dun!
Did you know that you can love someone from a distance? Like genuinely love someone. Perfect the art of praying for them and wishing them well if they just won’t change. Yes, it might hurt now, but in the long run, it will be beneficial to both.
In conclusion- don’t be so available and don’t be afraid to give yourself some worth. In all my years of living, I’ve never seen so little weddings. Like no one wants to get married anymore! And we can conclude that the further we move away from God and Godly principles – the further we move away from love.
Con mucho amor,